1. Breathe deep.We mentioned yoga earlier. In yoga, the instructor will tell you to breathe from the abdomen, using your stomach muscles to pull air down into your body. This isn’t quite as simple as it sounds, and it takes practice, but it’s worth it – not just for sex, but for everyday life.
2. Synchronize your breathing.When you’re making love, make a conscious effort to make your breathing patterns match. While counting during sex is far from sexy, a good pattern is to inhale slowly for five seconds, hold your breath for three seconds, exhale for seven seconds and then “observe the space at the end of the breath” – that is, pause for a couple of seconds after you’ve breathed out. It is of course not realistic to maintain this pattern throughout sex, but it’s a good guideline, and by matching your breathing patterns with your partner’s, your entire bodies will be in synch too.
3. Slow down.As you feel yourself coming close to orgasm, slow your breathing and surf the sensations. Your breathing directly influences your climax and can control it very effectively; normally when you’re close to orgasm your breathing becomes faster and shorter, you might even begin to hold your breath. Recognize when this is happening and breathe slower. This alone will delay your orgasm, and result in a more satisfying climax.
There we have it. Breath from your diaphragm, synchronize your breathing and slow it down when you’re close. Simple, satisfying, natural and incredibly effective.
There are different types of breath and they produce different results. Long, slow, deep breaths causes our body to relax which is really important as arousal is building. Fast charging breaths increase arousal and build up heat and sexual energy. Using a combination of these breathing techniques is key to freeing up orgasm.
Try the charging breath:Sit in a chair with feet on the ground and exhale. As you exhale, push the air out by rapidly pulling your navel to your spine and whisper the word “Ha” on each exhale. The emphasis is on the exhale and the inhale comes naturally. Put your hand on your diaphragm to focus your attention there. Do the charging breath for 1 minute, building up to 2-3 minutes. The charging breath is great before or during sex and it also helps wake you up at any time that you feel like you’re spacing out.
A variation on the charging breath which I really like is two quick inhales into the nose and an exhale out through the mouth with a “Ha” sound. This is the same breath that they teach women to use during childbirth contractions. In fact, there are a lot of physiological similarities between orgasms and childbirth.
Consciously controlled breathing has a huge amount of benefits. For one, it can help you overcome resistance, so synchronizing your breathing with your body can quickly help ease any difficulty during, for example, anal sex, and can help make anal sex easier and more comfortable.
But it doesn’t stop there. Holding your breath reduces the amount of oxygen arriving at the muscles your body is using: it makes you more tired, faster. As a result, your energy levels can dip, his erection can soften, her arousal can lessen, and the sex will end faster. Controlling your breathing will prolong sex, make him harder for longer, delay both your orgasms, and make your climax more intense when it arrives.
You know the best thing about oxygen? It gets you high. Deep breathing during sex elevates the sensation of euphoria. The more you breathe, the better you feel, and the better you feel, the better the sex.
more on:
http://oaks.nvg.org/deep-breathing.html
http://www.lelo.com/theblog/breathing-exercises-better-sex/